“Maybe grief isn’t meant to disappear.” I agree grief is our love manifest — we should never seek to bury it — why would we — people leave us but the love remains — and should be celebrated.
I don’t mean that we should revel in the memory like so many slivers thrust into our soul but, rather, to keep that love alive.
Beautiful expression of grief. From one of my favorite authors, Thich Nhat Hanh:
Recognizing Loved Ones in New Forms: He suggests that loved ones are not truly lost, but rather continue to exist in other forms, such as in our memories, in the people we love, or even in the natural world. He encourages us to look for them in these places and to recognize their continued presence. For example, you might see a father in his children, or find a loved one's spirit in a beautiful sunset.
Brené Brown writes of vulnerability and leadership. You’ve just shared an insight on grief and one’s love unexpressed. Chris, I love your willingness to be vulnerable and to express your thoughts so. I love you, man. Keep fighting. Keep writing. Do keep sharing via this blog and through that next hug of a family member or friend.
As a full time caregiver in my husband’s last stage of life, I’m not sure I agree. I could go both ways. My anticipatory grief is for everything that won’t be, however I show my love for him in the care I give him. My love and my grief are both expressed.
Thank you for sharing this with us, it’s such an important perspective. I think you’re right that love and grief can live side by side, both expressed in different ways. The care you give your husband is such a powerful expression of love, and at the same time anticipatory grief carries its own weight for what cannot be. Your words remind me that grief is not one-size-fits-all; it’s as individual as love itself.
Nephew Jangus —
“Maybe grief isn’t meant to disappear.” I agree grief is our love manifest — we should never seek to bury it — why would we — people leave us but the love remains — and should be celebrated.
I don’t mean that we should revel in the memory like so many slivers thrust into our soul but, rather, to keep that love alive.
I love you, Nephew!!!
— ODIN
Beautiful expression of grief. From one of my favorite authors, Thich Nhat Hanh:
Recognizing Loved Ones in New Forms: He suggests that loved ones are not truly lost, but rather continue to exist in other forms, such as in our memories, in the people we love, or even in the natural world. He encourages us to look for them in these places and to recognize their continued presence. For example, you might see a father in his children, or find a loved one's spirit in a beautiful sunset.
Brené Brown writes of vulnerability and leadership. You’ve just shared an insight on grief and one’s love unexpressed. Chris, I love your willingness to be vulnerable and to express your thoughts so. I love you, man. Keep fighting. Keep writing. Do keep sharing via this blog and through that next hug of a family member or friend.
As a full time caregiver in my husband’s last stage of life, I’m not sure I agree. I could go both ways. My anticipatory grief is for everything that won’t be, however I show my love for him in the care I give him. My love and my grief are both expressed.
Thank you for sharing this with us, it’s such an important perspective. I think you’re right that love and grief can live side by side, both expressed in different ways. The care you give your husband is such a powerful expression of love, and at the same time anticipatory grief carries its own weight for what cannot be. Your words remind me that grief is not one-size-fits-all; it’s as individual as love itself.