Lately I’ve been thinking about how fragile time feels, how even the best moments pass too quickly to hold.
Maybe it’s age, or maybe it’s the brush with mortality that changes how I see the world.
What used to feel endless now feels precious, fragile, and finite. The older I get, the more I understand that life isn’t built from years or milestones, but from heartbeats, the brief, perfect flashes of being fully alive.
Writing this is my way of honoring those heartbeats that make us unique.
The Heartbeat of Perfect Moments
Perfect moments are impossibly fleeting, not meant to be caged, but to be witnessed. They rarely last longer than a heartbeat, sometimes just a breath more, a momentary pause in the relentless current of time. They are the sudden, shocking clarity of being perfectly present.
They slip through our grasp like sunlight through open, cupped hands: blindingly bright, profoundly warm, and utterly gone before we can tighten our fingers around them. We are not meant to live inside them, suspended forever in their grace. We are meant to notice, to drop everything else and breathe them in before they fade, to absorb their radiant heat and carry it as an internal ember into the imperfect, often difficult hours that follow.
They are not the destination, they are the fuel for the journey.
Where Grace Finds Us
Sometimes, the moment finds us at the edge of the world, on a mountain crest where dawn spills its first molten gold across a purple, sleeping horizon. The air is so sharp it stings the lungs, smelling of ancient wet wood and morning chill. Your children stand beside you, hushed by the sheer scale of the world, and for one suspended, breathless instant, the entire universe holds its motion just for you.
They are found in the overwhelming, staggering silence as you stand on the rim of the Grand Canyon, witnessing the abyss. They are found in the slow, muscle-aching endurance of hiking down, through, and back out, tasting the dust, seeing the epochs of time laid bare in the rock, and feeling the profound relief of emergence.
Other times, they arrive in a collective roar, an instant of synchronized human motion: the crisp, textbook perfection of a double play unfolding, 6-4-3, the sudden, paralyzing hush of a no-hitter in the ninth inning, or a massive crowd rising as one body, exhaling a single, unified sound.
They are the electricity of Marching Mizzou under stadium lights, the brass gleaming like a shield, the drums rolling a thunder deep in your ribs. You hear the sacred words of “Every True Son” echoing in your chest, and you are no longer just an individual, you are lost and found in the roar, part of a tradition that is vast, timeless, and completely alive.
Moments of Profound Change
They are moments that redefine time:
The instant you hear the first cry, and the world contracts to a single, miraculous point, the birth of a child. The overwhelming, silent knowledge that everything has changed forever as you touch that soft, new life for the first time.
The breathless rush of joy when you push up, feel the board lock beneath your feet, and catch your first wave on a surfboard, riding the pure energy of the ocean for one fleeting, exhilarating stretch.
Or the weightless feeling when you step off a plane into a loved one’s waiting embrace after a long separation, and the hours of distance melt away in a single, desperate hug.
They arrive as a flash of creative fulfillment, when the scattered pieces of a problem suddenly click, the code resolves itself, or the final word falls into place, and you know, with absolute certainty, that you have created something true.
The Whisper of the Small
Yet, these moments often hide in gentler, smaller places. They are in the quiet, meditative crunch of a walk beneath falling leaves, or the dense, pulsing hum of crickets on a velvet summer night. They are in the rhythmic tugging of waves at the shore as a fire burns low beside you, reducing the world to two elements, fire and water.
They are the easy peace of sitting on a beach, the cool, shifting sand between your toes, watching the world unfold: children making impossibly grand sand castles, the simple triumph of finding an intact shell, and the sound of the ocean dissolving all worry.
They find us in a crowd, too, in the dark theater of a concert, the lights flashing like a supernova, the bass thrumming a pure, physical pulse through the air. The rhythm hits, the voice breaks, and everyone, strangers and friends, moves as one singular body, one breath, one heartbeat. For that instant, you are stripped of your name and your worries, and you are infinite.
Perfect moments whisper in the most intimate corners of a life: the pure, restorative sound of laughter that lingers past midnight, the quiet, exhausted peace that settles after a true forgiveness, or a hug that lasts just a little longer than is socially necessary, communicating everything that words cannot.
They are in the primal connection of your child’s hand slipping into yours, or the fleeting, sweet scent of honeysuckle after a sudden rain. They are the deep comfort in the rhythm of breathing beside someone who understands your silence better than your speech.
The Space Between the Flashes
Life is not perfect, it was never designed to be. It is built from the immense, rugged space between these flashes of grace: the noise of the day, the struggle of doubt, the endless, necessary work of showing up again and again.
These imperfect hours, the chores, the waiting, the mistakes, they are the clay from which your life is shaped.
Perfect moments are not the goal, they are the proof. They are irrefutable evidence that beauty still blooms, and order can suddenly emerge, even in the very middle of chaos.
So when the next one finds you, on the rim of a chasm, in the curve of a wave, in the face of a new life, or in the quiet, uncomplicated presence of someone you love, don’t hold it too tightly. Do not try to possess it.
Let it pass through you like light through open hands. Let it move you, mark you, and most importantly, remind you. Because its essential warmth, its imprint of grace, will stay. It will become a compass, guiding you gently, faithfully, through all the complicated, messy, imperfect hours that make this singular life your own.